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[15 Oct 2009]

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[15 Oct 2009]

Two weeks ago, we shared the top 10 turn offs for Russian women as determined by a recent survey conducted by HotRussianBrides.com. While those turn offs made the top of the list, they are by no means the only behaviors to avoid. Below you will find 10 more traits that Russian women can’t stand, along with tips and advice to keep you from turning the lovely ladies off. As before, keep these turn offs in mind when interacting with the women on HotRussianBrides.com and you may just see better results. Men Who Use Bad LanguageNo woman likes a man with a dirty mouth. Watch what you say (and write) when chatting on HotRussianBrides. This is true for video chat, live chat, and email. While the occasional slipup won’t send a lady running for the hills, try to make an effort to keep it clean. Close-Minded MenIt’s very important to keep an open mind when conversing with someone from another country. Due to differences in cultures, you and the ladies on HotRussianBrides are bound to have different views of the world, and that’s okay. Just be sure to respect her opinions, even if they clash with your own. While there is nothing wrong with a little spirited debate, disrespecting a woman’s beliefs or implying that your country and culture is superior to hers will only make you seem like a pompous jerk. StubbornnessNo one likes a stubborn person. Men (and women) who unreasonably cling to a rigid point of view risk being seen as irritating know-it-alls, so make an effort to keep an open mind. Remember, it’s okay to listen to other points of views and to change your mind when necessary. Uneducated MenJust as education is a turn on for Russian women, men who are uneducated turn Russian women off. While you don’t have hold a Ph.D., or even a college degree to keep a woman’s interest, a basic knowledge of history, geography, and current events will take you far.  Men with a Poor Sense of HumorAs we mentioned in a recent article, a sense of humor is the number one turn on for Russian women. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that men with a poor sense of humor aren’t going to win any fans. When chatting with a lady, try to tell a joke or share a funny story, listen appreciatively when she does the same, and laugh at yourself if you say something silly or make a mistake. Men who take life too seriously are simply no fun. Lack of GoalsRussian women like men with goals and ambition, not someone who is content to sit at home while life passes them by. While you don’t have to aspire to be an astronaut or the next U.S. president, it helps to have some sort of plan for your life and your career. Share your hopes and dreams with a special lady and she’ll see you for the intelligent, ambitious man that you are. Poor CommunicatorsIt’s a fact that women like men who are good communicators. When chatting with a Russian lady, no matter what the medium, try to state your ideas clearly and simply so as to avoid any confusion. Use complete sentences, along with proper grammar and punctuation. Men who mumble unintelligibly in video chats or who compose grammar-challenged messages risk being brushed off and misunderstood. Anti-Social BehaviorWhile it may seem obvious, avoid any anti-social behavior when chatting with a Russian woman. Name calling, threats, and other hostilities are all big no-nos. Sometimes extreme shyness can be mistaken for anti-social behavior so make an effort to be friendly. ImmaturityNo woman wants to feel as if she’s dating her younger brother, so be sure to behave like a mature adult. Immature behavior can include telling off-color jokes, complaining when you don’t get your way, shirking responsibility, behaving crudely, etc. Don’t treat a lady the way you would your male friends. Lack of ConfidenceWomen like confident men, so don’t be afraid to let your personality shine. Smile, make eye contact, share your thoughts and ideas. Men who have a low opinion of themselves are not likely to attract others. If you don’t have confidence, fake it until it feels natural. Remember, everyone has something to offer so never feel like you’re not good enough to snag a hot Russian bride. Now that you know what turns Russian women off, why not log onto HotRussianBrides.com and put your knowledge to the test?   For more information about what turns Russian women on and off, please see “Survey Says Russian Women Like a Good Laugh” and “Top 10 Turn Offs for Russian Women.”    

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[14 Oct 2009]

Recently, I read a great article entitled, Russian Women Let Men Be Men. The article talked a lot about the femenist movement in America, and how a lot of men feel that while the movement helped to further progress women, it also took away their femininity. While I agree somewhat with this opinion, it is also probable to say that Russian women and all other types of women are happy to let men be men as long as they feel that the men in their lives are capable of fulfilling that role. Deciding to investigate the matter further, I wanted to learn more about the specific complaints that women have about men, as I strongly believe that these very complaints are the reasons why not all women “let men be men.” How do women try to solve relationship problems? First, it is important to note that major problems usually occur after a woman feels that she has attempted many times to solve smaller problems. In many cases, women are the ones to initiate Marriage counseling, or are often the ones at the book store buying self help books on relationship issues. Thus, women usually become fed up and do not believe that their partners have a sincere interest in solving the problems at hand. In response, a woman will take matters into her own hands, where she is likely seen as assuming a more dominant role in the relationship as usual. What are the main reasons that women complain about their partners? In relation to these accusations, the biggest reason that women file for divorce is “mental cruelty.” While often times these women are not being emotionally abused, they feel that the men in their lives have stopped communicating effectively with them and that their men are also acting indifferently towards them altogether. More so, sometimes women feel completely neglected by their husbands, because these husbands start talking to their wives less and stay away from home for longer periods of time, usually without the courtesy of a phone call! Other common complaints that women have about their partners include being constantly ignored, having to deal with the man watching TV non-stop, slacking on phone calls to simply say “Hello” and ask his lady how his day is going, and not apologizing for hurting the woman’s feelings, while at the same time blaming her for being too sensitive. Are these complaints usually valid? Willard F. Harley Jr. who has a Ph.D. in the field of Psychology often counsels men after women have confronted them with these and other similar issues. Talking about the matter further he states, “I’ve proven to husbands over and over again that their wives usually do not expect too much of them, and when they understand and respond to their wives’ frustration, the complaining ends and a terrific marriage begins.” He further explains that women just want men to “focus their efforts in the right places and not make new ones.” He has learned throughout his years as a Psychologist that all most women really want is to find who they think their soul-mate is, to have a man who will listen to them, for him to be trust worthy, and finally to have a man who won’t make a decision without considering his lady’s feelings. Do most women want to play the man’s role in a relationship? When a man takes all of these things into account, women are happy to let their partners truly take on the role of being the man. However, when she feels that he is not living up to his respective role, the woman will often begrudgingly take on that role herself. On the contrary, this is usually not the case if a woman feels emotionally connected to her partner. This mode of thought goes for all women, including Russian women. Furthermore, most women are thrilled when a man acts like a gentleman by doing things such as opening doors and walking on the outside of the street. In essence, many women feel that if men want to be men, they need to step up to the plate and act like it.

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[13 Oct 2009]

If you’ve hit it off with one of the beautiful Russian ladies on HotRussianBrides.com, you’re likely to want to move beyond the casual chit-chat of the getting-to-know-you stage of conversation. Whether you’re talking via video stream, exchanging e-mails, or actually meeting in person for the first time, it is important to remember not reveal too much too soon. Here are some tips on what not to talk about in becoming better acquainted with a lady. Marriage By its very nature, HotRussianBrides.com is a service whose goal is to lead members to find the love of their life. It is therefore natural that when you are taking your first journey into the world of Russian dating, a particular Russian bride might conjure up thoughts of marriage. And as much as you think your Russian lady might be enthusiastic about planning a marriage, discussing it at this point is premature. She needs to get to know you and you need to get to know her. Give it time. Money and Financial Issues Like it or not, the amount of money you have – or don’t have – can suggest a lot about you. Regardless of how much you have, a lady is not likely to be impressed if you brag about your personal wealth. Similarly, telling her you make very little or that you are up to your eyeballs in debt might lead her to make all kinds or assumptions about you and your personal spending habits. Bottom line – avoid money talk. There are better ways to try and impress her. Relationship History In general, women don’t care about your prior relationships. And to bring them up – or to bring up previous dates that you’ve been on – suggests that you’re still not over that person. A lady could be led to feel inadequate – as though she couldn’t possibly measure up to your ex – if you speak positively. If your reminisces are negative, she may see elements of herself in your criticisms and be inclined to believe that she can’t meet your standards. Personal Secrets It could be something as simple as the fact that you’re a secret country music fan. Or it could be something as dark and complex as a traumatic life experience you had. In any case, telling divulging your personal secrets early on could risk sabotaging the relationship by coloring her view of you. Sex Sex is a subject about which you have to tread carefully if you do bring it up. Chances are your Russian bride will either love talking about sex or cringe at the mention of the subject. Either way, you should avoid discussing it. It’s too easy to slip-up and say something embarrassing or give her too much information. Whether you’re interacting with your lady online or in person, the best thing you can do is to keep the conversation light and simple. Building a relationship is a gradual process and giving away too much too early could spoil your chances for success.  

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[13 Oct 2009]

Everyone is fearful of the unknown. It’s wise to be careful and aware when embarking on any new adventure, but you also need to have an open mind and a willingness to trust. HotRussianBrides.com is not an online dating site where you need to worry about who’s at the other end of your instant message.   There are people that try to discredit the international dating scene, but many are just competitors seeking an advantage. Some companies will try anything to be the best, but none can compare to the safety and security of HotRussianBrides.com.       Trust in Online Dating? Here You Can!    These women want to find a perfect love match just as much as you do. If you see a particular lady on another site, don’t assume that she is somehow working the system or not being truthful. Some may join other online dating services just like you may. With so many beautiful women responding to your emails, you may wonder if these women are real. Yes! We obtain every ladies photo identification and film them signing an agreement that confirms their identity and reveals their expectations right up front.   This extra step assures most members, but some still have reservations. One gentleman named Wes said, “The women I met were the women I was chatting with … that was a relief. I think until you meet the person you are always a little unsure of what will happen. I am still using the site and will continue to do so. Thanks again.”   Building Trust   Once you begin talking and building relationships, you may be tempted to try and “spy” on your favorite ladies. Suspicion follows closely on mistrust. If you are wondering if the women are real, perhaps they are wondering the same of you. Being devious and deceptive is not the right direction to finding a love match. HotRussianBrides.com is committed to doing everything possible to help protect our members from fraud and deception and hope you will assist us in achieving this goal.   Begin this experience with trust and you too may be singing our praises, such as one love struck member Brad who said, “My heart is taken … to everyone else, good luck and God bless you on your search for your true love. I am not looking anymore, I have found the most amazing woman on the planet.”   Another quote I heard once sums it up nicely: “A good marriage is at least 80% good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust.”  

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[12 Oct 2009]

So you’ve spent some time on HotRussianBrides.com browsing through hundreds of lovely Russian ladies profiles. You’ve decided which ones you like and sent your introduction e-mails. And nothing. The ladies just don’t seem interested. So what gives? There is a number of possible reasons why you might not have received much of a response to your initial attempts to communicate with our ladies. And while it may be difficult to gauge the exact reasons for an individual lady’s perceived lack of interest, there are a few steps you can follow when communicating to show the ladies how much you have to offer. Don’t be Negative For one thing, avoid speaking in the negative. Don’t complain about your work, people in your life, or anything else. Maintain an upbeat positive image and stay optimistic. If you do this, the ladies will see you as someone interesting and fun to be with. Show Interest in Your Lady Demonstrate an interest in her life. If a lady tells you something unique about herself, be it her career, her ambitions, her family, etc. – ask follow-up questions. Be inquisitive. Try to relate what she tells you to something you’ve experienced in your own life. Show Her How You’re Unique Showcase that which makes you unique. If she asks what you do for fun, don’t simply tell her you like movies or music or books (if that’s your thing). Name some specific movies that you really enjoyed. Name a popular band whose concert you attended. Talk about an author whose works you enjoy. The more specific you are, the more unique you will come across to her. Stay Honest Lastly, and most importantly, be honest. Putting up a false front is a terrible way to begin any relationship and can only lead to negative consequences. If a lady likes you, it will be for who you really are and not for something you pretend to be. A good rule of thumb is to treat the Russian ladies you correspond with as though they are the most important people in the world. Stay positive, show interest, make yourself unique, and always be honest.  

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[12 Oct 2009]

Perhaps you’re fortunate enough to have found that Russian lady of your dreams. But now, what about all the other ladies you’re been corresponding with? All that time and effort you spent to find that one beautiful lady for you has surely yielded more than one interested woman. So now that you’re devoted to one, what’s to become of the others? Take it Slow First things first – take it slow. It’s a good thing that you have hit it off with a particular Russian lady, but it might not necessarily mean that she is destined to become your bride. Just as searching for the right lady takes time and commitment, so does the development of a relationship. Keep Your Options Open If you’ve only been acquainted with your lady for a short time, it might be wise to keep all of your options open. After all, you wouldn’t want to settle for a very good Russian bride when you could have a perfect Russian bride. We recommend taking several weeks, if not longer, to continue correspondence with a lady before making any big decisions. If She’s the One, Devote Yourself to Her If you decide that a lady truly is a perfect match, you should naturally lose interest in the other girls. At the same time, as the communication stops, the other girls will lose interest in you. The more time you devote to getting to know one lady, the less you will devote to others. Eventually, the other ladies will go their respective ways as your attention sticks exclusively to that special one. This is natural and not something about which you should be overly concerned. Send a Polite Message In the event that any of the ladies are still interested in talking after you’ve decided that you like another, the best thing to do is be honest and let them down easily. Send them a brief, but polite message explaining that you have chosen to pursue someone else, but wishing them the best of luck in fulfilling their search. Taking the time to do this shows respect for them as well as demonstrates loyalty to the lucky one you choose. It is always best not to rush into any relationship. Take your time and get to know several Russian ladies. When you are certain you have found the one for you, the others will move on.

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[12 Oct 2009]

When you have found a lady you like enough to want to send her a message, it is likely that you might be overwhelmed with things you want to say and ask her. Conversely, you may not have the first idea of how to begin the conversation. The first e-mail is important, therefore you don’t want to say too much, too little, or say the wrong thing. Here are some tips that can help you capture her interest. Keep it Short and Simple A lady is much less likely to reply with a meaningful response if you send her a gigantic block of text to read through. Keep things short. A good general rule is to try to stick to less than 150 words in the first message. In this case, less truly is more. You’ll be giving her a little to work from as you both gradually strive to develop a rapport. In your later messages, you can get more into detail. But keep the first one simple. Talk about a Mutual Interest You should avoid jumping into heavily romantic talk this early. Instead, mention something that you like doing that she might have mentioned in her profile. For example, if her profile says that she enjoys traveling, mention an exciting trip that you may have taken, either abroad or domestically. The more specific you are, the better.  Don’t Compliment Her on Her Looks... Yet As much as you may be dying to tell her how exquisitely beautiful she is, you should avoid doing this before you have gotten to know her. She probably receives those kind of compliments frequently anyway, so the more she learns to like you, the more your compliments will mean to her later. Write Clearly and Proofread Before you send you message, read it over at least once and fix any misspellings, grammar mistakes, etc. Also avoid using internet abbreviations (i.e. “ur” in place of “you are”). An e-mail that is full of errors could not only make you look bad, but it could complicate the translation process. Don’t Ask if She Wants to Meet Take it slow. All relationships take time to develop, especially in the online arena. You should get to know a Russian woman in depth via online correspondence long before you start thinking about planning a trip to Russia or bringing her home to you. Communicating with a beautiful Russian lady for the first time can be an exciting experience. Just remember to take it slow and put forth your best image through your words.  

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[12 Oct 2009]

Perhaps you’ve found a Russian lady you really like. You start exchanging messages, but then suddenly you don’t hear from her again? Why? Making the wrong move could kill a great relationship before it has even begun. Even worse, she might think you’re a jerk if you repeat the same mistake. Here are some tips on what not to do when you are getting to know a new lady. Talking about Sex or Marriage Too Soon Given the abundance of stunningly beautiful Russian brides on HotRussianbrides.com, it is natural that you might want to establish a deeper commitment with one of them right away. But asking a lady too soon about such heavy subjects as marriage or sex is not the right way to go. A courtship process needs to take place first. When you have gotten to know a particular lady well enough, only then will you be able to broach such serious subjects. Mentioning them after you have first met online will quickly push her away.  Figuring out Where She is at Any Given Time It is fairly easy nowadays to learn a person’s schedule and determine what she might be doing at any given moment. However, that does not make it any less creepy. If a lady learns that you’re following her every movement and you know, more-or-less, what she is up to at any given time, you will come across as a stalker. Trying to Contact Her Constantly Just because she has not instantly responded to your latest message doesn’t mean you should bombard her with more. Many Russian women must travel great distances to access an Internet connection. This fact, coupled with the busy life that many of the women lead, might make it difficult for the women to get back to you right away. A barrage of contacts will only make you look desperate and bored. Have patience. Pursuing Her Despite Her Lack of Interest Women are masters at dropping passive aggressive hints. If you send her a long message and she replies with a one-sentence response that should not be your cue to send her another long-winded reply. If she is really interested, you will know. Talking Too Much about Previous Relationships Another surefire way to give a lady the creeps is to talk frequently about prior relationships you have had with other women. If you talk positively about another woman, your Russian lady will think you are still not over your previous relationship. If you talk negatively about another woman, your Russian lady might feel insecure and wonder if anything she does might be cause for you to talk bad about her. The best thing to do is avoid talking about your previous romantic interests. Everyone makes mistakes from time to time. And just because one woman might lose interest does not mean there is not another one out there who would be delighted to meet you. Just keep these tips in mind as you correspond with the ladies and always remember to be a gentleman.  

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[9 Oct 2009]

So you and your Russian bride have decided to take the plunge. Your Fiancée Visa has come through, you’ve made travel arrangements, and, most important, you have found the love of your life! But then, reality sets in: The ring, the flowers, the food, the photographers, and – YIKES -- the cost!  Every wedding needs a budget, and, if you’re contributing to the cost of your nuptials, consider that there are all types of weddings: There’s no guarantee that a $50,000 gala will ensure a lifetime of happiness any more than a Justice of the Peace on a beach at sunset. Just know what you are getting into! By the numbers On average, US brides and grooms spend more than $20,000 on their wedding, and usually end up spending double their budget!  According to www.mint.com, the typical wedding budget breaks down this way, percentagewise: Reception: 40%Décor: 10%Ceremony: 10%Photographer: 10%Attire: 5%Videographer: 5%Rentals/lighting: 5%Stationery: 5%Gifts: 4%Group Activities: 3%Miscellaneous: 3%   Bliss at a Bargain There are many ways to save and still have a memorable wedding. In a challenging economy, many wedding service providers are starving for business, and many will negotiate prices with you. Remember, if you don’t ask, you have no chance of receiving.   Photography for (almost) Free Make the event intimate by corralling your guests to help out. Trust us; they’ll love to leave a footprint on such a Big Moment in your life. You can ask friends take pictures instead of hiring a professional photographer, for example. Place disposable cameras each reception table and invite guests to snap away. You’ll have enough to create two photo albums: One for you, and one to send your Russian bride’s family.  Or ask guests to e-mail you their best pics, and post them to your social media account or blog for all to share.   Get the Look for Less Wedding gowns are the provenance of the bride, but The Dress need not dress down a year’s salary! David’s Bridal and weddingstoreonline.com are reliable sources for beautiful dresses at a fraction of retail. Look online for deep discounts on tuxedo rentals, too. Also consider the physical setting. The reception is the biggest expense by far, and the one people remember. Consider cocktails instead of dinner, create a fixed menu. A Friday or Sunday wedding is less costly than one on Saturday. A winter or spring wedding is less expensive than one in June (forget May: it’s considered an unlucky month to marry in Russian superstition!)   Try to negotiate the price. According to groomsonline.com, “Time is on your side, because a venue needs business more then you need to book there. You are in the driver’s seat.”   Destination: Wedding If your wedding draws an international crowd, consider a combined wedding-honeymoon, also known as a destination wedding. Resorts in hot locales from Mexico to the Maldives now combine parties, ceremony, guest accommodations and tours with the traditional honeymoon adventure. Best of all, the resort does all the work! If you are savvy in selecting packages, and book hotels and airfares together, destination weddings can save $20,000 off the cost of a lavish hometown wedding, according to the experts at destinationweddings.com. Just be sure to send the guests off to the other side of the island!   Tips for Making a Budget Remember to prioritize! Anything you do to save money in one category means you can spend more in another. Have your aspiring pastry chef nephew create the cake, a competent friend play videographer, and you’ll have enough to create special the engraved crystal picture frames your fiancée wants as guest favors. Mint.com is one reliable place to track spending and set up a budget. Others include Momentville.com, Real Simple, and Microsoft has downloadable Excel templates.   The Best Tip of All… Talk to your fiancée. Your Russian bride, like brides everywhere, likely has planned her dream wedding down to the last detail since she was a little girl. This is her time. However, the sad truth is that money conflicts are the number one reason couples fight, so discuss her expectations and yours from the get-go. It’s the recipe for a lasting marriage!   Why see dollar signs in your eyes when you should be seeing stars?

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[9 Oct 2009]

Some men think that because they are bald that Russian women will not consider them attractive.  The truth is many women find bald men very appealing. Old Stereotypes In America, the negativity towards bald men can be traced back to colonial times when men wore wigs to cover their receding hair line. Over time that negative perception grew as the nation grew. America was a strong rising nation that needed strong men to help it grow. Bald men where looked upon as weak, frail, puny, past their prime. Bald is Beautiful As we know times have changed. Today bald men are looked upon on a whole new light. More men are taking the plunge and letting themselves go all natural. Actors such as Bruce Willis, Patrick Stewart, Shemar Moore, Vin Diesel, Samuel L. Jackson and Jason Stathamand are seen as strong, sexy, leading men. Grammy Award Winner Seal certainly has not let his baldness get effect his life of happiness with supermodel wife Heidi Klum. Most of us can’t even picture Michael Jordon with hair. The Russian View Russian society has long held a different view on baldness. Case in point Russian Prime Minister Vladimir Putin. At the age of 57 year-old Putin is seen by Russian women and men as a strong, confident, man who is not afraid to mix it up. He is also viewed by many Russian ladies as a sex symbol.  In many ways, Russian women are light years ahead of their Western counterparts. They view bald men as strong, sexy, vigorous, hearty, lusty, and potent. They value the whole man just not one part.   What Russian Women Like What do all the fore mentioned men have in common? They have strong self confidence. That strength, that inner self belief, has made them successful in their careers and in their personal relationships. Sure they could have listened to the naysayers and given up their chosen path, but they didn’t. Russian women in particular view confidence as a major turn on.  I invite you to read or re-read  an earlier post, Survey Says Russian Women Like a Good Laugh. Here you will find more keys to opening the lock of the hearts of Russian women.   Remember to believe in yourself and take a chance with a Hot Russian Bride.