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[23 Jul 2009]

There she is.  The most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen looking into the camera, her emails to you over the past months professing her undying love and now she says she’s ready to take your relationship to the next level.  Yet, in the back of your mind, you can’t shake the nagging suspicion that it’s all too good to be true.  “No one that young and beautiful could ever really love me like she says she does,” you tell yourself.  So, like many others, you search the internet for proof that that your suspicions are founded and that the young lady who claims to love you really has ulterior motives.   Without a doubt, you can likely find negative comments made about any company or organization if you look for it.  Just as easily, you can find websites claiming that the moon landing was staged, Elvis is still alive and the Earth is actually flat.  Everyone has an opinion and, with the increasing availability of internet access and the ease in setting up a free homepage of your very own, everyone has the ability to share their opinion, unchecked, with the entire world.  It does not seem to matter whether the information is truthful or accurate; opinion is paraded as “fact” without any regard to the possible repercussions.    This is true even when it comes to “anti-scam” and “black list” websites, which claim to spread the “truth” about Russian dating and “mail order bride” services.  Now, we won’t comment on whether one such list or another is telling the truth; we’ll leave that determination up to you and your own personal experiences.  What we can do, however, is share some tips to help you sort out the facts from fiction.   How to Judge a Black List First and foremost, keep in mind that any website which is considered to be an “International Marriage Broker” must obey applicable laws which govern their industry; however the so called “blacklist” websites are not regulated by ANYONE.  There are no “official” black list websites or agencies for the international dating and correspondence industry, so any information you see posted to these “black list” websites should be considered the publisher’s subjective opinion.  Want to check with a reliable source?  While there are none specific to international dating and marriage broker services, there are many official consumer protection organizations which may be trusted, both within the government as well as in the private sector. Trust your own judgment.  Ultimately, with a little common sense and objectivity, you are the best judge of what’s really going on.  Obviously, if a lady is asking for money or gifts, cease contact and report her to the site’s administrator.  Be cautious about giving out your personal information.  Be wary if she’s in a rush to meet off the site or too quick in professing her undying love before you get to know one another.  While this doesn’t necessarily make her a “scammer” since some people are quick to become emotionally attached to a potential mate, it should raise a red flag.  If you are unsure or something doesn’t seem right, contact the administrator for the site you’re using.  A trustworthy service will investigate your concerns and discuss them with you, no matter the outcome of their investigation. Accept the fact that very few people do things purely out of altruism.  Such people do exist, but most people are motivated by personal gain, whether this is monetary or simply petty revenge.  So, when someone offers something to you, ask yourself “what does this person stand to gain if I accept and follow their opinions?” Check which websites have purchased advertising space on a blacklist site, and then compare these sites to the ones who appear on the “approved” or “safe” list.  If you only see one or two advertisers and they’re high up on the “safe” list, it is possible the “blacklist” owner is receiving kickbacks from the “approved” website.  You should especially be suspicious if links to these sites appear to be part of an affiliate program, where the blacklist publisher receives money in exchange for traffic sent to the linked site. Look closely at reports that come as a result of a failed relationship.  Sadly, many women are accused of being “scammers” simply because of a personal dispute.  The dissolution of a relationship can be very painful and sometimes, in pain, a man will stretch the truth or even outright lie to make the woman seem much more villainous…and make themselves seem more like the victim.    So always take post-breakup reports with a very large grain of salt.  If you weren’t there and don’t know either of the people involved personally, it’s impossible to know what REALLY happened when the couple broke up. Watch out for disgruntled, former employees.  Keep in mind that, in order for websites and agency offices to keep running, a staff must be employed.  Just as in every industry, there will be unfortunate cases in which a staff member’s employment must be involuntarily terminated.  This is never a pleasant event, but in rare cases, former employees may seek retribution by making up stories about their former employers. Look for the evidence.  Regrettably, many reports of scammers are presented in a “he said, she said” fashion.  They are 100% based upon hearsay, rather than objective evidence.  When you read through these reports, ask yourself “Where is the evidence?”  Is the blacklist’s publisher showing you the email (with headers) and screenshots of the alleged scammer at work…or simply asking you to take their word for it?

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[17 Jul 2009]

Your profile pictures are the first impression that our ladies have of you. If you don't take the time to submit good photos, or at least complementary ones, you risk coming across as a person that is not really intersted in a relationship. We have put together 5 tips to help you upload the right photos to your HotRussianBrides.com profile:   Guy Tip #1: Focus on You – When uploading photos to your profile, make sure that you only upload photos of you and not of you and your friends, especially if your friends are female. Think of this as your one shot to make a good first impression and put the time into it. Groom yourself. Brush your hair. Wear a clean shirt. You are trying to ATTRACT ladies, not repel them. Also, if you want people to get to know you better, upload photos of your house, your pets and your hobbies. But be honest.   Guy Tip #2: Be Casual – Post a casual photo, just like as if you are ready to go on a first date or family gathering. Avoid the corporate mug shots where you might look too… corporate.   Guy Tip #3: No Shameful Photos – Even if you have a dynamite body, no one wants to meet your privates before they meet you. Don’t upload nude pictures of yourself. Also, don’t post photos of you passed out in a bathroom or wasted in someone’s backyard.   Guy Tip #4: Wear Complementary Colors – Wear colors that complement your skin tone. Forget what’s in style and wear what makes you look good.  If you are not sure, ask co-workers or friends to point you in the right direction.   Guy Tip #5: Think Like a Photographer – You don’t have to a professional photographer, but since this how people will “meet you” take the time to ensure that the lighting is good, that your eyes aren’t red from the flash and that you are in focus. Also, the background in a photo makes a difference. Try different backgrounds and make sure nothing is taking attention away from you or that random objects are not sticking out of your head.

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[14 Jul 2009]

It is a fact that many men do not join International Dating Websites, especially Russian and Ukrainian sites, because of the bad reputation the sites have about being scams. HotRussianBrides.com is a US-based company that works with the most reputable and ethical Russian and Ukrainian Introduction Agencies with the hopes of connecting willing singles divided by geography.

By providing video validation and live streaming video chat, HotRussianBrides.com has added additional safety layers for the gentlemen to validate the ladies and to show that the person that he is corresponding with is indeed a real woman. But there is still more to the equation. [More]

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[14 Jul 2009]

The first step to finding your match on HotRussianBrides.com is comepleting your profile. Men can have a tough time with this. Here are some tips to help you find the right match for you. If you find yourself suffering a sudden case of writer’s block, you’re not alone.  Many people, when confronted with the daunting task of describing themselves, discover that they don’t know what to write or even where to begin.  Yet, a personal profile is one of the most important and powerful tools available to anyone looking for love online.    If you’re stuck at “I am an honest guy who likes to have fun,” the following tips may help you write a profile that stands out from the crowd and attracts a beautiful Russian bride.   First, be positive.  Avoid using negative statements in your profile.  We’ve all been on dates with people who couldn’t seem to stop complaining about their job, their ex, their car, etc.  Negativity, whether it’s on a date or in your profile, will not make the ladies swoon.  Instead, focus on using positive statements.  So, instead of saying “I’m sick of American women,” “I hate liars and cheaters,” or “Don’t waste my time unless you’re serious”, use phrases such as “I love Russian and Ukrainian women,” “I admire honesty and commitment in a relationship,” or “I’m looking for a serious, meaningful relationship with a woman who’s ready to get married!  If this sounds like you, send me an email!”    Show, don’t tell.  No matter how often your friends say that you’re a great guy, this really doesn’t mean anything to the women viewing your profile.  She’s never met your friends and has no idea what makes you so “great”.  Rather than sharing what others say about you, SHOW her what makes you a great person.  Talk about what you do in your daily life that makes you a man worth meeting and marrying.  For instance, don’t just say that you’re a great father, instead talk about how you spend time with your kids and what you like to do with them.  Avoid clichés.  Nearly everyone writes that they’re a great person who likes to have fun and is looking for an honest partner.  Instead of writing something obvious that may be taken for granted and glossed over, write about what makes you different from every other guy looking for a Russian or Ukrainian woman.  Have fun writing it, be clever and creative, and put your best qualities on display.  Remember that you’re not writing a resume; you’re introducing yourself to a woman who may turn out to be your future wife someday!  Be honest!  Do not be tempted by the anonymity of online dating; no matter how strong the urge is to exaggerate or stretch the truth, be honest in your profile.  Whether you are thinking about hiding your age, your marital status, or your secret love for Broadway musicals, you’ll be doing yourself no favors when the truth inevitably comes out.  Don’t forget to post a good photo!  A photo can say a thousand words, but if you upload a blurry, poor quality image, they may not be the thousand words you were looking for.  Only upload clear, recent photos of yourself.

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[29 Jun 2009]

Online dating is the third largest revenue producer out of all paid content sites, behind digital music and online gaming, according to Forrester Research. Revenues for the industry are expected to grow by 10% through 2013. Also, research from UK consumer group "Which?" concluded that 62% of people that had been on a date with someone they met on cyberspace agreed that it was easier to meet someone on a dating site than in other ways, such as in a pub or club, or through friends.

HotRussianBrides.com removes geographic boundaries from your quest to find love. Anyone with Internet access can meet and correspond with anyone else in the World and even fall in love or at least find true compatibility.

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