In a post “Women’s Lib” world, men have been conditioned into abandoning the old fashioned, traditional dating rules. Gone are the days when gentlemen were expected to open a door for a lady or pull out her chair; now such chivalrous actions may be interpreted by women in the West as demeaning or insulting. For men who miss how it used to be, dating a Russian or Ukrainian woman can be a refreshing change. The dating culture here still embraces the old fashioned approach. Even a more modern thinking, independent Russian woman will appreciate the extra care and attention you pay her by following traditional courtship rules.
If you’ve grown too accustomed to the modern dating protocol in the West, here are some wooing tips that are sure to make your special lady swoon.
Take the Lead.
While the norm today may be to share in the planning of the evening and going “dutch” when it’s time to pay, this trend has not caught on everywhere. Take control by planning out the date yourself – and footing the bill. By making all the reservations and planning the schedule yourself, you not only avoid the “what do you want to do?” exchange; you also relieve her of the stress and responsibility involved in planning your first date, allowing her to relax and just focus on enjoying her time with you.
Make it Special.
Don’t treat your date like any other night out. If you want to make a great impression on your date, dress to impress. This doesn’t mean you’ll have to don a tuxedo (unless it’s appropriate for your destination!), but you should certainly ditch the jeans and t-shirt. Dress well, be sure your clothes are ironed and your shoes aren’t scuffed, run a comb through your hair; you may even consider topping it off with a masculine cologne, but be careful not to go overboard.
Don’t Forget the Flowers.
Flowers play a much more significant role in Russian culture than they do in Western countries, so it is very important to present them to your date. Keep in mind, no matter the variety you get, that the bouquet should be comprised of an odd number of flowers (even numbers are reserved for funerals and sorrowful events) and you should avoid presenting yellow roses (which can signify disinterest or the end of a relationship).
Sweep Her Off Her Feet.
You know the drill: Open doors for her, pull out her chair, offer your jacket if it’s chilly or raining. Don’t forget to use good table manners if you go out to eat and keep her glass full. Another custom from a bygone era: offer your arm to her as you walk together or as you step into or out of vehicles. These may seem like little things, but she’ll appreciate your care and you’ll impress her with your charm.
Keep in Touch.
Don’t forget to get in touch with her the next day! After your date or trip, call or send an email to tell her you had a wonderful time and that you’re interested in seeing her again. This little courtesy is often neglected in the modern dating world, so if you follow this tip, you’re sure to stand out.