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A Cursory Overview About The Differences Between Men and Women

17. August 2009 by Celeste 0 Comments

An English professor wrote the words, "Woman without her man is nothing" on the blackboard and directed the students to punctuate it correctly.

The men wrote: "Woman, without her man, is nothing."

The women wrote: "Woman! Without her, man is nothing."  

Men versus women; Mars opposed to Venus; the classic “battle of the sexes.”  The differences between genders are the topic of debate, focus of speculation and often the subject of humor and comedy.  Both men and women seem to feel perplexed by the ways in which the other thinks and acts. 

Studies have shown some remarkable psychological differences between men and women, as well as unexpected similarities.  For instance, surveys have shown that 60-75% of women prefer feeling, while 55-80% of men prefer thinking.  However, don’t misunderstand this as meaning that men are more intelligent than women; IQ scores actually don’t vary much between the sexes.  Studies such as Simon Baron-Cohen’s EQ SQ Theory have shown that men tend to be better at analyzing and exploring systems and rules, while women are more apt to try empathizing, or trying to identify with another person’s feelings. 

Have you ever noticed that men and women communicate differently?  Women are more likely to make eye contact, make noises like “mmhmm” or “uh-huh” while listening and express agreement and support in a conversation.  On the whole however, the way both genders communicate tends to be very similar. 

We have many stereotypes that persist, even though they are not necessarily true in every case.  Women are supposed to be more emotional, even to the point of excess; more “obsessed” with child rearing; more prone to laughing and smiling, or when the slightest thing goes wrong, crying.  Men are assumed to restrain their emotions more than women, to be obsessed with sex, and to become overwhelmed by the emotions of women.  We all know that not every man or women acts in these ways, but these have seemingly become the “norms” in our general society. 

In choosing a partner, both men and women rank “kindness” and “intelligence” as being the two most important factors.  However, men tend to value beauty and youth more than women, who tend to value financial and social status more than men do.  In most cultures, men are expected to play a more active role in courtship, such as asking a woman for a date or proposing marriage.  Don’t have a professional, “formal” photo on your profile?  Don’t worry – women tend to prefer informal, “candid” photos when searching for their mate online. 

While we can’t necessarily explain why women expect men to take out the trash, ask unfair questions with no “safe” or “right” answer, or always bring a posse with them when they go to a public restroom, we can tell you this:  ultimately, every woman wants to be adored and appreciated for who she is.  She wants the support of an understanding partner who thinks she’s just as beautiful when she first wakes up in the morning as she is when she’s all made up for her date with you.  She wants someone to catch her when she falls and help her back up onto her feet.  Women just want to be loved, completely and unconditionally.  In this, men and women seem to be quite the same.