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Are You Saying One Thing and Doing Another?

6. January 2011 by Christy 0 Comments

One thing about international dating that confuses and annoys Russian women is men who write one way but act another. Here are two common ways gentlemen contradict themselves during the Russian dating process and how these contradictions can destroy a man’s chances of finding a bride.


Most gentlemen claim they are on our site to find a future wife. They write of this desire in their profiles and emails and ask the ladies if they are serious about finding a long-term match. However, rather than making a sincere effort to contact compatible women, more than a few men write to the first hot woman they see and more often than not focus on her looks and body. This naturally sends a mixed message to the ladies. The women wonder if a gentleman is truly searching for his second half or if he is only interested in sex. While sexual attraction is undoubtedly an important part of any romantic relationship, it’s not everything and men with sex on the brain risk scaring off marriage-minded ladies.


When describing themselves, many gentlemen on HotRussianBrides write that they are honest, loyal, loving, and kind. However, several of these self-proclaimed kind and honest gentlemen act anything but. Honest men do not lie about their age, their looks, or what they’re looking for in a mate. Kind men do not call ladies names, make demands, or treat the women like property. While it’s tempting to lie or exaggerate the facts, a lady will eventually learn the truth and she may wonder if she can ever trust her suitor again. Name calling and irrational demands are obviously not a turn on and will repel, rather than attract, potential brides. If you claim to be honest and kind, prove it!


The old saying “actions speak louder than words” is certainly true when it comes to Russian dating. If you want to find your future wife on HotRussianBrides.com, make sure that your actions match your words!