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Going the Distance: How to Make Love Last

10. November 2009 by Marie 0 Comments

 Love is like a plant. Without attention, it will wither and possibly die. What makes a great relationship last? It's the little things that count -- even in long-distance romances. 


A National Institutes of Health-funded study of nearly 400 couples over 22 years found that the happiest pairs share these traits:


Realistic expectations: Relationships and marriages crack under the pressure of communication gaps and incompatibility in sex and mutual interests. Too often you hear people say their partner "changed." More likely, one didn't notice changes in the other and still kept the same expectations. What actually breaks people up is a gap between what you and your lady want and expect from each other. That is why getting to know someone well before making a commitment is critical. HotRussianBrides.com always urges its members to take their time courting and communicating with a lady.


Showing affection: Until you meet a lady in person, use chat and email to compliment her often, write a romantic poem, and use our online gift shop to send her flowers, jewelry, even English lessons. Ladies eat this up and are much more likely to return compliments. It must come from the heart, of course!


Finding and strengthening common connections. This is the absolute best way to bond. Forget the "air of mystery" that's supposed to make you seem cool. It doesn't last. Don't lie, exaggerate your accomplishments or boast to impress her. Be yourself and bond with each other over common interests. Russian women appreciate straight-shooters.

Accentuating the positive. Many of our ladies describe themselves as positive thinkers. No, surely their lives are not perfect, but a positive mental attitude does wonders to smooth out the bumps in that road called Life. If you're a bit of an Eeyore, train yourself to look for the silver lining in the clouds. Don't just say it; retrain your way of thinking. It can be done. And it will make your long-distance love even more excited about meeting you.


The trick to long-distance love is regular, positive and honest communication. With our vast gallery of ladies from many walks of life, you're sure to find a soul mate, and possibly a life mate, on HotRussianBrides.com