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Guidelines for Looking for the Perfect Match on International Dating sites

10. June 2010 by Gregg 0 Comments

From time to time, we are asked by gentlemen if we can provide suggestions on how to manage their search for that special Russian Bride. While everyone will be different, and what works for one gentleman may not, in all honesty, work for every gentleman, there are a few pointers we can offer that are good to follow no matter what the situation.

Don’t fall in love with a photograph.

HotRussianBrides.com has some of the most attractive ladies from Russia, Ukraine and other parts of the Former Soviet Union, but while the ladies on our site are astonishingly beautiful, it is important to remember that beauty is only skin deep. How peoples’ personalities sync up and whether or not people truly understand each other are the real tests of a relationship.

Try to understand your Russian Lady’s Culture

Russians and Ukrainians will frequently see American and European movies and TV shows imported and translated into their languages. Many in bigger cities can go to a local shopping center, purchase a new Apple iPhone at an Electronics store, watch an American movie at a Cinema, and then head over to a Burger King or McDonalds for lunch. Aside from notable exceptions such as the movie “Night Watch”, we don’t have the same sort of knowledge of cultural tropes from Russia and Ukraine. It’s always good to know a little about your lady’s culture – at the very least it seems much more considerate. We have posted quite a few articles on Russian Culture and even Russian language in the past. 

Never Send Money

This cannot be repeated enough. If a lady asks you to send her money, we ask you to PLEASE inform us here at Customer Service. It is a violation of our rules for a lady to ask you for money, and if you send Ukrainian brides money on your own then we cannot track, view, confirm or be held responsible for the process whatsoever. It is NEVER a good idea to send money to someone you have not met yet and even if the transfer goes well and the lady is honest about its use, the fact that she asked and you provided it could cause so many problems down the line. If you wish to send a lady a gift, you can always use our Gift Shop, but once again please do not send anything if a lady asks for it and please let us know.

Don’t make promises that you can’t keep or don’t intend to keep

While we have all heard the horror stories about ladies not turning up for dates, or disappearing after meeting gentlemen, in our experience the opposite tends to be true. Many of the ladies on our site have reported gentlemen pledging that they would be on planes that they never arrive on, telling ladies they will visit and never doing so, and generally just not coming through on promises they have made. If you’re just casually chatting with a lady, it’s absolutely fine to let her know that you’re not serious yet. Don’t feel pressured to make big fantastic plans until you’re absolutely ready to do so. Don’t promise to make a trip until you have your passport and are ready to do so. 

Don’t assume that you’re “saving” a Russian Bride!

A lot of gentlemen initially go off the assumption that ladies in Ukraine and Russia live in immense squalor, that both countries are extremely poor and that ladies are looking for any opportunity to “escape”. In this day and age, this is the furthest thing from the truth. The reality of the situation is that while the cost of living in these countries is quite low in comparison with many Western nations, the standard of living – especially in larger cities – is quite comparable. Many of the ladies on our sites are working professionals with careers and families and friends, they have just decided that they will have much better opportunity searching for love outside of their country and have chosen to use a site like ours to do so.  It’s a bad idea to assume that you are “saving” a lady from her life, or that she should be grateful to you. Keep in mind that she’s usually sacrificing a lot more to come to your country to be with you than you are.