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One Ukrainian Woman’s Experience with International Dating

24. June 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

In a recent article entitled “Confessions of a Kiev Bride-to-Be,” one Ukrainian woman went undercover as a prospective bride to see what international dating is all about. Though she didn’t work with one of HotRussianBrides’ introduction agencies, author Sasha Milevskaya’s experience offers some interesting insight into what ladies experience when they look for love overseas. Not only that, but her testimonial shatters many of the common stereotypes about Russian and Ukrainian women and international dating.


The Ladies Aren’t Paid to Chat

If the various anti-scam forums and blacklist websites are to be believed, most, if not all, agencies pay Russian and Ukrainian women to chat with men. However, when Sasha registers with an agency full of "young beauties" there is no mention of monetary compensation. The agency owner simply explains the service and interviews Sasha to determine what kind of man she’s hoping to find. Though a few unscrupulous agencies pay women to chat, there are plenty who do not, and this includes the agencies that work with HotRussianBrides.com. 


The Ladies Aren’t Submissive and They Aren’t Desperate

One of the most common stereotypes about women seeking love overseas is that they are meek, submissive creatures who are desperate to find (any) foreign man. This is illustrated by a gentleman named Richard who informs Sasha he is in the process of corresponding with three other women and will choose his favorite in a few months. Richard also tells Sasha when he wants to chat with her online and reprimands her when she misses the appointment due to work. It doesn’t occur to Richard that one of the women may not want him or that cultivating relationships with foreign men isn’t a top priority in the ladies’ lives. 


The Ladies Aren’t Miserable and They Don’t Need to Be “Saved”

Another common myth about Russian and Ukrainian women is that they are poor and miserable in their home countries and that they long for a foreign man to save them. However, when one Lebanese man invited a Ukrainian lady to meet him on vacation he was “depressed” to discover that the lady was “not the inexperienced Ukrainian beauty he was hoping for; eager to travel and see life beyond that of Kyiv or its cozy Obukhiv highway hotels.” He was also astonished at the amount of money she carried. The author shatters another gentleman’s preconceptions when he learns that she enjoys her job as a secretary and has no plans of giving it up any time soon. 

The author is not just critical of potential suitors, however. She is skeptical of Ukrainian dating agencies and their tactics and mentions one or two men who encountered agency scammers along the way. To read more about Sasha’s enlightening experience, please visit What’s On Kiev.