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Seeking Russian Brides? How to Avoid a Wasted Trip to the FSU

22. December 2009 by Admin 0 Comments

The goal for many men enjoying HotRussianBrides.com is to meet a beautiful Russian or Ukrainian woman, meet her and marry her. As simple as this sounds, it can be a journey wrought with miscommunication, misunderstanding and mistrust without setting the right expectations.

The largest expense associated with finding love abroad is the trip to meet your interest. Because it is a large financial commitment that many members make too prematurely, here are a few tips to help you get the most out of your trip to Ukraine or Russia and to avoid a broken heart.

Love is like a Flower

The most important thing you need to keep in mind is that you must develop a close relationship and make sure the feeling is mutual before making any travel arrangements. Once you are a qualified member, you will be able to complete our IMBRA forms and be able to send an Intimacy Request to the lady of your choice. Because we are a dating Website, we do not allow our members to exchange contact information unless they are comfortable doing so. An Intimacy Request allows you and a lady to chat and email in a completely filter-less environment.

Once she accepts your IR, then she is showing that she is interested in getting to know you on a more personal level.

It’s All about Chemistry

We recommend you only make the trip to the FSU on one (or both) of the following conditions: 1) when you have corresponded with one lady and have been made confident of her intentions to meet you or 2) when you have a pool of ladies that you would like to get to know better before committing to only one.

To start, request the local agency’s information (which you can obtain from our Travel Concierge) and arrange the first meeting and airport pick up. Consult with the local agency regarding the services they offer and choose the ones you need. The services available include ground transportation, translation services, guided tours, flower delivery, hotel or apartment accommodations.

Even if your lady promises the moon when you are going to come visit her, understand that things happen. Sometimes people don’t click in person like they do over emails or phone calls. If this happens, the worst thing you can do is blow up, stalk her, or accost her.

One advantage the gentlemen have is the Agency. If for some reason the lady you have been corresponding with gets cold feet, gets a cold or gets held up with work or school, they can arrange other dates for you to get to know other ladies. Many men have reported that they actually hit it off with their last-minute date more than with the lady that they had been corresponding with.

Give Her Time Before You Take “The Plunge”

No rational person should meet a stranger and within days follow them half-way across the World to be married and start a family. Although love does happen at first sight, a relationship takes time, communication and understanding to be successful and lasting.

Don’t assume she is desperate to leave her country. Russian people are very family oriented, regardless of their socio-economic status. The culture and routines are different that the US or UK and fear of the unknown can turn any courtship sour. You have to show her that leaving her life for yours is something that is in her best interest. You will be giving her a better and happier future.

To avoid a wasted and disappointing trip, make sure that she understands these things and what she will be gaining from leaving what she knows. Be prepared to make repeated trips to her country and maybe even spending some time there so that you can reassure her you are the right person for her. In some cases, men end up moving to Ukraine or Russia to be with their beloved.

But People Say You Are Scammers!

Critics of HotRussianBrides tend to label the service a scam because we make money in the process of facilitating communication between men from around the World and women in the Former Soviet Union. While Russian Online Dating is by no means a guaranteed or pitfall-free process, HotRussianBrides takes great pride in providing the most responsive and fair customer service, state-of-the-art communication tools and a diverse selection of potential mates. It is to support this infrastructure that we charge for our services.

Aside from the means and access, we don’t guarantee “results” of any kind. This is something that is always misunderstood by men seeking to buy a woman. Despite our name, HotRussianBrides does not sell mail order brides. It is up to you to make her fall for you. Unrealistic or misplaced expectations are the biggest reason members chose to not use our services.

The women on HotRussianBrides.com and not unlike other women: they will get serious only when they find the right man, they will test your commitment and they will change their mind/taste on a whim. The ladies on HotRussianBrides.com are not sex slaves or subservient automatons. They are real women seeking real men and love in an unconventional way. Unrealistic expectations are your biggest enemy when seeking love online in Russia.