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Tips That Get a Conversation Going

19. October 2012 by Lorena 0 Comments

When you don’t know someone well and you want to get to know them better, it can be tough to think of conversation topics. What do you say to a perfect stranger?


The easiest way to get a conversation moving is to be an active listener. Start by asking open-ended questions, then let the conversation move from there. People are drawn to the people who are interested in them. A few tips that can get you started:


Start with an open-ended question like, “What do you like best about your town/your job/your school?”

This question requires more than a yes or no answer; she’ll have a chance to relay her favorite things about those subjects. Listen with interest to her answers. They give you the clues for what to comment on or ask about next.


Share a related tidbit about yourself.

For instance, if she tells you that she is studying literature in school, mention the best book you read in college. This give and take help a conversation flow naturally. It also allows you and your Russian bride to learn more about one another and learn whether you are a good match.


Don’t fall into the trap of interviewing her.

It can be tempting to fire off questions one after another. However, this leads to a lopsided and uncomfortable conversation. Instead, slow down and carefully take in the answers. Let her words make you think. Then, share your reaction with her. Luckily, when you are first getting acquainted, you will be conversing through chat or email, which gives you time to read and think. This interaction can happen at whatever pace you need.


Don’t talk all about yourself.

Conversations involve give and take. Try to alternate between talking about your day or your life and talking about hers. Remember, she is there to find someone, just like you are. Give her a chance to get her own insights and interests out there, and do the same for her.


In the end, it’s best to just relax and enjoy the interaction. Don’t allow yourself to get stressed out over interacting with Russian ladies. They are there to meet people and enjoy themselves, too. Allow yourself to simply enjoy the conversation, and you have a great chance of connecting with a wonderful Russian girl.