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What Science Can Teach You about How to Flirt

12. July 2013 by Lorena 0 Comments

Playful flirtation is one of the keys to connecting with that special Russian or Ukrainian girl. But, flirting doesn’t come easily to everyone; some people are shy or reserved, and can sometimes have trouble figuring out what to do.

 

Luckily, sociologists and scientists have taken an appropriately geeky interest in the mechanics of flirting and shared their findings in a number of studies. A few scientifically-proven flirtation tips:

 

Let Her Know You Like Her

When faced with a potential match, there are many people whose instinct is to hide their interest to protect against outright rejection if the object of their desire does not reciprocate their interest. But, making your interest clear is a necessary risk.

 

How best to do that? First, do not worry too much about witty opening lines. The Social Issues Research Center says that simple questions, like asking how her day was, are fine. In an early email or chat message, toss out a nice compliment. Not one that overdoes it, but, one that makes it clear that you are interested in her.

 

Read Her Signals

A lot of flirtation is non-verbal. If you are looking at her on video, is she smiling? Does she have an open body posture? According to a 2004 study called Sex Roles, these are signs that she is comfortable and feeling flirtatious. Another flirty signal from her is dropping her head to look up through her lashes. 

 

Use Eye Contact

When you and she meet in person for the first time, eye contact is one of your best flirting tools. The Social Issues Research Centre says, “How you look at another person, meet his or her gaze and look away can make all the difference between a successful, enjoyable flirtation and an embarrassing or hurtful encounter.” The researchers share several steps for the best approach:

 

  1. Make eye contact, briefly, while still far away from each other.
     
  2. Smile and look again when around 4 feet away. This is the area that is described as “social space” rather than “personal space.”
     
  3. Don’t stare! Eye contact that is too insistent can feel aggressive or overly personal for someone you just met.

 

More than anything else, remember to have fun and enjoy getting to know a gorgeous and interesting woman. Not every interaction will lead to a lifelong romance with your one true love; it’s okay to have a make a few blunders and missteps while honing your flirtation skills. In the end, each chat will make you a better flirt, and increase your enjoyment of your interactions with the lovely ladies of HRB, all while guiding you toward your ideal match.