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Are You Sabotaging Your Search for a Russian Bride?

4. August 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

Many gentlemen sabotage their search on international dating sites like HotRussianBrides.com without even realizing it. Here are two common ways men unwittingly destroy their chances of success and how you can avoid doing the same.


A Defeatist Attitude

Russian dating can be challenging and at times some gentlemen feel it’s hopeless. While this feeling is natural, gentlemen who permanently adopt a defeatist attitude only make things more difficult for themselves. How? Gentlemen who don’t believe in the Russian dating process make half-hearted attempts to court Russian women and these attempts are naturally less successful than whole-hearted ones. Gentlemen then believe that their failed attempts are further evidence of the futility of Russian dating and they either give up completely or repeat the self-sabotaging cycle.

If you approach the Russian dating process expecting to fail, then chances are good that you will. If you approach the process expecting to be scammed, you’re going to see scammers at every corner, even if they don’t exist. It may sound trite, but there really is something to the power of positive thinking.


Misery Loves Company

It’s only natural to want to share your dating frustrations. Everyone needs to vent from time to time. However, swapping horror stories with family, friends, or forum fellows often leads to excessive feelings of hopelessness and frustration (see above) so try to keep your venting to a minimum. In addition, don’t solely focus on all the negative Russian dating stories posted online. Be sure to read the success stories as well! It may seem that the negative stories far outnumber the bad, but keep in mind that people, for whatever reason, are much more likely to vent frustrations than sing their love from the rooftops.

We understand that Russian dating can be hard, but don’t let a defeatist attitude and the bad experiences of others make it more difficult. Strive to remain optimistic and you'll improve your chances of finding love on HotRussianBrides.