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Do Opposites Attract? Experts Say Maybe Not

23. October 2009 by Admin 0 Comments

While seeking your love on HotRussianBrides.com, you see a beautiful woman and want to get to know her better. But as you read her profile, you discover that her interests don't really match your own. But you still want to give it a try. After all, opposites attract, right?


Ask the Experts

Before you give it a go, consider what relationship experts say. For long lasting romantic relationships, opposites do not attract. Furthermore, differences in personality, beliefs, and attitude are good indicators of future problems that can lead to a breakup.


Paul Cutright author of “You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think” does think that unresolved patterns attract and what people consider love is basically a pattern.


Dr. William Ickes, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Texas believes that a degree of opposites does attract but we look for those who complement us not for a complete mirror image. He does not think opposites attract.


What to Do

When looking for your love on HotRussianBrides.com don’t look for a clone. Don’t be too specific. Instead look for someone that shares similar interests.


For example, if you like art look for someone who likes art. However, if you are a huge Van Gough fan but she loves Salvador Dali, don’t write her off. Tell her why you love Van Gough so much. Ask her why she loves Dali and ask her to teach you about him. By doing this you are finding out about her and she will be learning about you.


Before you know it, you are conversing with her on subjects that you are both passionate about. You are beginning to build a relationship!


Elements of Attraction

While searching for your Russian bride think about the following:


  • Family - If you want children make sure she is like minded. Likewise, if you don’t want children make sure your lady feels the same. Family is a huge part of Russian society. If you want a future together, you and your bride must be on the same page about a family.
  • Faith - Many Russian women are members of the Orthodox Church. The Church is a big part of Russian culture. So make sure you and your Russian bride are on the same page spiritually and how it will be a part of your life together.
  • Education - Most Russian women are highly educated, speak different languages and are well versed on many topics. Be sure you are comfortable with her education level.
  • Interests - You love sports, she likes to read. If that’s the case your relationship will have some difficulties. Make sure your interests are similar.
  • Goals - What are your long term goals? Be sure that your lady has the same outlook, dreams and desires for your future together.


The main thing to remember: if your values, hobbies, interests, goals, and the way you want to spend time are different, then your relationship will be in big trouble.


Dating is not an exact science. You are searching for the best part of you. Remember, our ultimate goal at HotRussianBrides.com is the same as yours, to find your everlasting love.