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The Urban Legends of Russian Dating

2. September 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

An urban legend is defined as “a form of modern folklore thought to be true by those circulating them…stories that are not necessarily false, but are often distorted, exaggerated, or sensationalized over time“. You’ve surely heard one of the classic urban legends about dating, marriage, and love. However, have you heard an urban legend about Russian dating? While not as well-known, they do exist. Here are a few of the most common.


The Guy Who Ordered a Bride From the Internet

If you poke around on the Internet long enough you’ll find accounts from people who claim to know a man who “ordered” a bride from a catalog. Many more individuals think men can literally purchase women from a website, even though they don’t personally know a couple who met this way. More than a few members of HotRussianBrides came to our site with the expectations of buying a bride.

In reality, men cannot purchase women from the Internet and so-called “mail order bride” sites are nothing more than niche dating services. Chances are, men who supposedly bought brides on the web simply met their ladies on international dating websites like HotRussianBrides.com.


The Guy Who Married a Russian Woman and Abused Her

Some members of the general public think men who pursue foreign women online are abusive creeps who will beat their wives and keep them locked inside the house. This belief is based, again, on anecdotal evidence, the “I know a guy who knows a guy” stories or vague accounts posted online. 

While there have been a handful of men who abused and even murdered their foreign wives (this also happens with men who met their wives the old fashioned way), the vast majority of men who use Russian dating services are normal people who are simply seeking something different.  


The Guy Was Horribly Scammed by a Russian Woman

On the other side of the coin, are the stories about men who were horribly scammed by women they met on Russian dating websites. Perhaps a man sent a lady thousands of dollars only to never hear from her again or maybe a gentleman learned his sweetheart didn’t love him like she said and only chatted with him because she was paid to do so. Forums and blacklist websites are full of such tales.


The Russian woman as scammer tale is an urban legend that has been “distorted, exaggerated, or sensationalized over time“. Certainly, Russian scammers do exist but they aren’t nearly as common as one might think. The forums and blacklists are full of anecdotal tales and jilted suitors and crafty competitors add fabricated accounts, one-sided stories, and exaggerated reports every single day. Men who use a little common sense like not sending money to strangers and choosing Russian dating services who validate the ladies that use their service are not likely to be fooled by scammers.  

There are urban legends about pretty much everything and that includes Russian dating. To avoid being fooled, don’t believe everything you hear (or read) and take the time to do a little research if necessary.