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Who Should Make the First Move?

26. May 2011 by Christy 0 Comments

Who should make the first move on a Russian dating website? The ladies or the gentlemen? There are many different ideas when it comes to the first step of the international courtship process.

Some men are turned off by Russian women who aggressively pursue Western men. Whether it’s a fear of scammers, a preference for traditional courtships, or a little of both, such gentlemen refuse to date ladies who make the first move. On the flip side are men who only date women who reach out first. Whether it’s shyness, insecurity, or the satisfaction of knowing a lady is interested, such men prefer to be pursued by Russian women rather than doing the pursuing themselves.    

So which method is better? There’s no definite answer as every single and every relationship is different. However, it’s important to keep an open mind about both techniques.

If you see a lady who catches your interest, by all means send her an email or initiate a chat request. Don’t let shyness or insecurity get in the way of finding a special partner. If she’s not interested, gracefully back off and concentrate on finding a lady who is willing to explore a relationship. While it’s fine to prefer chatting and flirting with women who make the first move, occasionally making the first move yourself improves your overall chances of finding a match.  

On the other hand, if you’re a man who refuses to date women who reach out first consider the reasons why. Is it because you fear Russian women are scammers who are paid to chat? Do you think it’s too forward and unbecoming a woman? There are many reasons ladies make the first move online (eagerness, aggressiveness, the desire to stand out), but writing them all off as scammers or unfeminine can unnecessarily restrict your dating pool and eliminate your chances of finding a match.

In short, everyone is entitled to their own opinion when it comes to who should and should not make the first move on a Russian dating website. However, gentlemen who keep an open mind and are willing to try both methods, pursue and be pursued, typically enjoy better results on HotRussianBrides than those who insist on one technique or the other.