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Why Do Russian Women Want Foreign Men?

26. October 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

Gentlemen understandably want to know why the women on HotRussianBrides.com are interested in dating, and possibly marrying, a foreign man. Do the ladies just want a green card? Is it because there is a shortage of Russian men? Do the women believe Western men have more traditional values than their Russian counterparts? Perhaps. However, a recent article in Ria Novosti, a Russian news website, gives a few different reasons.

Svetlana Kolchik, author of a weekly column entitled “Women Talk,” suggests young Russian women in their 20s and 30s are drawn to foreign men because they are less likely to be intimidated by success and more likely to treat women as equals.

Maria, a 27-year-old woman Kolchik interviewed for the column, had this to say:

"When you learn languages and start traveling — especially to the West, your mindset shifts. You start looking for a partner in a man, an equal. And it's hardly possible to find one here in Russia. Our men are so insecure. They often feel intimidated when they meet a strong successful woman. So for me, it has always been easier with a foreigner."

Another reason Russian women are drawn to foreign men, according to the article, is that Western men are less likely to expect their wives to conform to traditional gender roles.

"In a typical Soviet family, a woman, no matter how hard she worked, would do everything about the house, and that's what most males still expect from their other half,” said Anya, a 32-year-old woman who was married to a Russian man, but is now married to an American.

Anya goes on to say that she and her husband share household chores and that he even does some of the cooking, a fact which makes her “beam with pride.”

So, what can Russian bride seekers learn from this column? That not all Russian women fit the traditional housewife stereotype and that many ladies want a family, a career, and an active social life. Of course, the  reasons Russian women look for love abroad is as varied as the women themselves and open and honest communication is the only way to learn what a lady is looking for in a partner. While some women may be drawn to Western men because of the traditional values they believe these men possess, other ladies are attracted to Western men because they believe the men are more open-minded about the roles men and women should play in a relationship.