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Why Pick-Up Culture Leaves You More Frustrated Than Before

7. November 2012 by Lorena 0 Comments

A lot of men run into difficulties trying to meet ladies. A lot of gentlemen stumble over PUA and seduction methods while trying to find out what will work for them. Maybe they even buy a DVD or go to a workshop or seminar.


However, most gentlemen who explore the so-called “seduction community” wind up with nothing to show for it but frustration and a wallet that’s a bit lighter from bar bills and workshop fees. This is because seduction methods either don’t work, or don’t work the way that you want. Some of the reasons why:


You have to say and do things that just don’t feel natural.

Feather boas, outrageous hats, flashy jewelry, eyeliner – are you really into this stuff? A lot of pick-up artist pros tell you that you’ve got to wear things like that to grab ladies’ attention. Other pick-up behaviors include learning magic tricks, and memorizing jokey openers for that “cocky and funny” vibe.


But, if you are just repeating lines and behaviors that someone has taught you, you aren’t really being yourself. Won’t it get tiring to be this fake person all the time? Even if it was affective – and, for a lot of guys, it’s not – it’s artificial and hollow. While it is probably enough to net a one night stand or two, it’s no way to build a relationship.


Pick up culture is just geared toward picking women up.

It says so right in the title. It’s about seducing a woman, usually in less time that you’d spend enjoying a good steak. Seduction does not give you the tools to find an honest, quality lady to have a relationship. And, it’s very task-oriented. Instead of enjoying the process of falling for someone, you are under pressure to “close” and quick. It is not a system created with the goals of marriage and family in mind. For those who do not seek more than transient companionship, PUA is probably good enough. However, for gentlemen who are looking for a lifelong commitment, the tools of the seduction community are inadequate.


The system sells itself by making you feel bad about yourself.

Gentlemen who are not part of the seduction tribe are referred to as “betas,” “omegas,” and “frustrated chumps.” And, techniques like “negging” are unkind and more likely to get you a slap than a lady friend. There is a good deal of hostility toward both gentlemen who do not use PUA systems and the ladies that pick up artists view as prey. This sort of negativity cannot help but eventually pervade your entire world-view, and make it that much harder to find a meaningful connection.


You don't need to adhere to a "system."

Instead of fighting to be the alpha male of a glutted local dating market, why not go where you are rare and in demand? Rather than use tools that create only superficial connection, why not approach ladies who are interested with deeper, more significant qualities in a mate? Russian and Ukrainian ladies are more likely to be seriously marriage-minded and family-oriented. If you are tired of local dating games, hackneyed “techniques” and superficial encounters, why not join now, and find a beautiful Russian lady who is perfect for you.